Posted By Aimee Wilson - Occasions To Savor

You know that "cream" rises to the top.  The "crop", so to speak, is the crowd or the rest of the population.  Those in the "crop" may keep pace yet they are not unique or do not stand out.  I often wonder how people think of themselves.  I know I like to consider myself the "cream".  One of personal values is always do your best and I teach that to my son.  I work hard and strive for continual improvement in all that I do and the roles I play - mom, daughter, sister, employee, entrepreneur, friend, and business associate, to name a few.

When I think about the reasons people may not work as hard as they can or put their personality into what they do, whether it is work or play, I think about whether they are motivated and inspired to perform.  How many of us know people who do the minimum and expect magic to happen in terms of returns - income, experience, exposure, opportunity for advancement, etc?.

Hanging back in the crowd and subscribing to the "crop" membership will not get you ahead or fill your life with joy.  To get ahead, you must become the "cream". 

Here are three quick tips to become the "cream':

1. Find out what makes you unique. 

2. Play to your uniqueness.

3. Keep being you, no matter what.

Here's to the cream of the crop!

Savor life's best,

Aimee

 


 
Posted By Aimee Wilson - Occasions To Savor

Do you allow yourself to dream anymore? When you "grew up" or when the reality of life hit you, whichever cames first, you likely got busy and stopped dreaming.  Over the past year, I learned the difference between daydream and dreaming.  Daydreaming may be a precursor to dreaming.  Dreaming is definitely a precursor to reaching your goals.

When you are dreaming, what can you imagine yourself doing?  If you are having trouble connecting with your dreams (not the ones you have when you are asleep) or engaging in a process of dreaming, ask yourself why.

Then, answer this:

If I had ...,

then, I would....

By filling in the blanks, you are on your way to reconnecting with your dreams.  Then, you can start planning to achieve your dreams.

Savor life's best,

Aimee


 
Posted By Aimee Wilson - Occasions To Savor

I enjoyed an interesting and motivating presentation several weeks ago in Nashville, TN for my business.  Company managment and field leadership shared content-rich sessions and I had several ah-ha moments.  A motivational speaker, Dale Smith Thomas from http://www.WinnersByChoice.com spoke and confirmed a critical philosophy I am striving to pass onto my young son - the issue of choice.

 

When I had power struggles when my son was 2- and 3-years old, I asked his pediatrician about how to deal with the behavior challenges.  It was simple - give him choice.  I started to give my son a "this-or-that" type choice on a regular basis.  For example, instead of asking would you like to put on your shoes (or something to that effect), I started asking "Would you like to start with your left shoe or your right shoe?"  It worked brillantly.  I have since moved up to "Option A", which is usually what I need him to do or "Option B", which comes with a negative consequence and is typically something he would like to do.

 

The presentation by Ms. Smith Thomas reminded me of the control we truly have over the present situation - not that we can change circumstances by sprinkling pixie dust.  We choose how we react to a situation.  We have a choice on how we take responsibility for our actions in a given situation.  I always asked my son as I dropped him off in the mornings - "Are you going to have a good day?"  Now I ask "Are you choosing to have a good day?"  My son is a generally upbeat and optimistic child so the answer is an enthusiastic "Yes!"  I like that tone.  And if I am not able to pass on any other value, I choose to pass on the value of choice.  It is never too late for me to learn the power of choice as well.

 

Savor life's best,

Aimee

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Posted By Aimee Wilson - Occasions To Savor

I've been writing about our adventures in teaching family values using Once Upon A Family's Lessons for Little Ones series.  It is a tri-fold packet with 3 suggested activities and that typically involve establishing a family tradition around a family value, like love, for example.  Then, there is a baking activity to reinforce the family value.  Also, there is a progressive project to use throughout the month for the child(ren) to earn something or see a finished project.  An opportunity to preserve the family involvement is a paper picture frame for the photograph of the family engaging in the activities. 

 

I last wrote about April and May, which were Sharing/Serving and Joyful Attitude, respectively.  I incorrectly quote the June family value as Courage.  June is Responsibility and July is Courage.  We are working on responsibilties around the house and helping my son take more interest in caring for himself.  He wants to turn 4 so bad and I emphasize what big boys do, especially those who are 4.  That piques his interest every time.

 

Unlike other activities, I would usually keep records of how many times he did the desire activity or showed the desired family value.  This month is little more challenging.  My son is showing some regression signs - he wants everything done for him, including carrying his backpack with his toys or books, feeding him his vegetables (as if vegetables take more effort than his meat), and other similar requests.  I can say he is taking great pride in helping to make his bed and dressing himself without any physical assistance (just verbal prompts to put his shoes on the correct foot, every now and then).  So, there are definite bright spots.

 

Since I erroneously thought June was Courage, I purchased a supplemental book.  Over the last few months, I have learned that 3 year olds have peer pressure also and I was really looking forward to focusing on courage and not always following the crowd.  I will share more on that next month.

 

Savor life's best,

Aimee

 

Postscript:  Since writing this post, which was written a couple of weeks ago, Once Upon A Family, the direct selling company offering the Lessons for Little Ones product line, has closed effective June 30, 2009.  While I placed my last order before they closed yesterday, I am saddened to hear about their closing yet blessed to have enriched my family life with intentional focus and efforts on sharing family values and family traditions.

 

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Posted By Aimee Wilson - Occasions To Savor

Our Once Upon A Family's Lessons for Little Ones experiences for April and May have taken a funny twist.  I am not a baker by heart and every month there is a baking activity.  I have been able to hold my son off in April and May.  So, the focus for teaching family values did not end with a baking activity.  I promised to resume that in June when we discuss "Courage".

 

For April, we talked about "Sharing and Serving" and what that means for my 3 year old.  We did not just talk about it.  We created a magical Lollipop Garden using jelly beans he earned during the month when he served or shared with someone.  Naturally, I could not know when he did that at preschool.  There were moments that were truly touching, like when he wanted to give a gift to his Aunt, my sister, and his Grammy, my mother.  He picked out stickers for them - sea-themed and flowers.  Neither have occasions to use stickers.  He wanted them to have something special from one of our Target shopping trips.  

 

Needless to say, he earned lots of magic jelly beans for his magical Lollipop Garden.  We "planted" our garden for the Mother's Day weekend.  Using decorative grass in a shoe box, we laid the jelly beans on top, which he helped prepare.  The next day, the magic jelly beans appeared to get "rooted" as I sunk them down in the decorative grass.  On Mother's Day, he gave me the greatest gift - hearing his excitement when he saw all the lollipops from his magical Lollipop Garden.  

 

This month is "Joyful Attitude", a little harder to notice, particularly for a child who tends to stay positive and joyful as a part of his personality.  There have been a number of instances so far where he brought joy to one of the family members.  Joy seems to come more naturally for him so this month is more low-key.

 

To read about our other monthly family values experiences, check out these posts:

 

- Hard Work in January

- Loving-Kindness in February

- Unique Gifts in March

 

Savor life's best,

Aimee

 

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